We simplify everything to death. This is something I already wrote about, but I think it’s especially interesting how we have simplified one the greatest feelings of life; Love.
We have, beyond a doubt, simplified love to death. Love may be the greatest loss we have faced in this simplicity grief.
I would encourage you to challenge any use of the word love, from yourself or others. When someone says I love you, you should ask them what that means. When you say, “I love him” or “He loves me”, you should ask yourself what does that mean. How do your senses know that? What do you see, hear, or feel that leads you to believe something is love? Hearing the L word does not count.
We have lost such an important word by throwing it around and attaching it to everything we want. We do not question if our wants – where they came from, their intentions, if they are truly beneficial for us – are worth loving.
We dishonor the L word when we accept it from those who hurt us. We cannot accept disrespect, disregard, inconsideration, dishonesty, selfishness, and immaturity, and claim it is love. Love does not commit intentional crimes.
It is nothing but manipulative to use the L word to get what you want. To make yourself feel better, to make someone else want you, to get your way or get around accountability. This is lazy and emotionally unintelligent. I love you should never replace an apology. It is not an excuse (“But I love you!” is never real).
Love is a choice with a dash of desire.